For my second semester outside reading book I selected Odd Girl Speaks Out , by Rachel Simmons. This book is a reflection on bullying. It is composed of individual stories of being bullied, letters from bullying victims, and advice for handling and recognizing bullying. This book interested me because cyber bullying is a prevalent issue in our current society. It has been receiving lots of media attention. It has been the topic of discussion in the media, topic of news reports, themes for television shows and movies, and a nationwide campaign. Lady Gaga, a well-respected and famous artist has been the poster child against bullying in all forms. This topic is being addressed all around me but it is also extremely relatable to me. Being a girl in high school allows one to observe bullying, be bullied, or even bully others. This is something that I am faced with every day. I chose this book to increase my knowledge of bullying, such as why and how it happens. I would also like to take away knowledge of how to handle bullying situations after completing or while reading the book.
The first chapter “Why is it my fault that I don’t want to be her friend?” addresses the problem girls have with moving on and growing apart. Girls have a stigma for creating bffs, best friends forever. Girls are expected and often create incredibly close relationships with other girls. The author compares these bff relationships to a romantic relationship because both are composed with deep friendship, lots of time together, trust, and a fondness for one another. She explains how break ups in romantic relationships are normal and acceptable in our culture. They are difficult to deal with, but people don’t question that they happen. Simmons believes that these break ups are composed of the same variables as friends growing apart or moving on, but our society does not accept it the same way. “Yet best friends can be just as close as a romantic couple, and we have no idea how to confront changes in the relationship, or to break up. No one prepares us for it, tells us how to do it, or what is expected. No one says it’s okay, or not. As a result, people call it bullying. Others are outraged that they’re being called bullies. Adults take their cues from the girls but don’t know much more.”(30) I had never heard this point of view but I really believe that it is right on the dot.
This idea raises many questions with me. Why do we feel guilt for moving on? Why don’t we accept growing apart as a justification? Why isn’t it understandable like couples break ups? What role does gender play in this issue? Why is bullying connected to this issue? Should it be?
Seems like an interesting read Leah. I'm excited to see what you do with it. Blog remains detailed, provocative and a good read however would have liked to see you maintain updates in March.
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